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Book review: The Prince of the Pond, Otherwise Known as De Fawg Pin

Sunday, September 17th, 2006

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Author:Donna Jo Napoli
Illustrator:Judy Schachner
Reading Level (Conceptual):Children 5 and up
Reading Level (Vocabulary):Children 5 and up
Genre:fairy tale
Year of publication:1992

A deeply imaginative, if sad, deeper look at the story of the Frog Prince.

In this version, narrated by the frog who becomes the prince's wife while he is a frog, the prince gradually adapts to his watery environment and becomes content in his amphibian incarnation.


My daughter felt enormous empathy both for the narrator and for the frog-prince, both of whom learn a great deal and ultimately suffer greatly because of the changes the prince undergoes.

The line drawings make the physical differences and similarities between the naturally occurring frogs and the frog prince easier to understand.

-- Emily Berk

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Book review: The Jungle Book

Sunday, September 10th, 2006

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Author:Rudyard Kipling
Illustrator:Jerry Pinkney
Reading Level (Conceptual):Children 8 and up
Reading Level (Vocabulary):Sophisticated readers
Genre:fiction
Year of publication:1894

"At this point, reading pretty much any book is very easy for me. So what's important to me is how the book is written and what it's about," my 11 year old said to me recently.

"Then what about The Jungle Book? Did you find that easy to read?"

"Well, no, actually. It was very hard. But beautiful."

Rudyard Kipling's century-old story may be the perfect book for advanced but very young readers to tackle. The plot is involving, the characters -- people and animals -- think and act like individuals you might have met. But what's truly captivating about the book is the language Kipling uses.

My daughter's only misgiving about the book: It's clear that Kipling does not hold monkeys in high regard. Unlike people who do not even know of the Law of the Jungle, monkeys know of the Law, but refuse to submit to it. Monkeys are dear daughter's favorite animals. She will need to write her own book, in which they state their reasons for their recalcitrance.

In terms of the monkeys and the plot in general, it turns out that Disney's animated movie, Jungle Book, stays pretty close to the original book. And it's got some wonderful music and voices as well. Too bad I won't be recommending anything Disney for the next year or so.

Anyway, this book is better than any movie.

The hardcover to which this review links also includes the stirring story of Rikki-Tikki-Tavi, a very brave little mongoose.

There are many thees and thous in Jungle Book, which make parsing some sentences challenging. But the ideas described in these complicated sentences and long chapters (each one a tale that pretty much stands on its own) are thrilling.

For example, one chapter tells how Mowgli, the wolf boy, organizes his pack to stop the marauding gang of over 200 dholes, red dogs, which threaten to stampede through the jungle, ripping every animal they come upon to shreds. There is much blood shed, unavoidable bloodshed, and Akela, who led the wolf pack when it adopted Mowgli, is mortally wounded:

"Said I not it would be my last fight?" Akela gasped. "It is good hunting. And thou, Little Brother?"

"I live, having killed many." [responds Mowgli]

"Even so, I die..."
"So why does he say 'Good hunting' if he's dying?" my daughter asks? (Dear daughter was prepared for this death, although she is very sad about it. Akela is old and prepared to die.)

Well, in the book, 'Good hunting' is a greeting, like, 'Shalom' that means both 'hello' and 'good bye'. And also, Mowgli's plan has succeeded, so it has been good hunting, even though Akela was mortally wounded. And also, it is the wolf's way to kill and be killed, in accordance with the Law of the Jungle. So many layers of meaning expressed in just a very few words!

This chapter, like all of them, beautifully shows the power of that Law. You kill only when you have been gravely wronged. You make sure bullies do not harm you or those for whom you are responsible. But you don't act out of malice or greed, and you act in concert with your friends and brothers.

Highly recommended for advanced young readers.



-- Emily Berk

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Book review: The Eyes of the Dragon

Sunday, September 3rd, 2006

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Author:Stephen King
Reading Level (Conceptual):Children 12 and up
Reading Level (Vocabulary):Children 8 and up
Genre:fiction
Year of publication:1987

According to the blurb, Stephen King wrote this book because his 14 yr. old daughter could not read his other books.

I got this book because I'm not a fan of horror, but wanted a chance to read a book by Stephen King.

It is not a book I'd recommend to a child; I found it CREEPY, perhaps not in a horror-ish way, but creepy nevertheless.

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Book review: An American Childhood

Saturday, August 12th, 2006

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Author:Annie Dillard
Reading Level (Conceptual):Children 12 and up
Reading Level (Vocabulary):Children 12 and up
Genre:non-fiction
Year of publication:1988

Annie Dillard aims her clear scientist's eyes and the evocative Voice of the Pilgrim At Tinker Creek at the lives of upper class families with children in Pittsburgh, PA in the fifties. She reveals a great deal about Pittsburgh; and just about nothing about herself.

As long as one isn't determined to read this as an autobiography, it will not disappoint.

Dillard's reflections on the differences between her fascination with the French and Indian War versus her obsession with reading about World War II (one was history, the other was an open wound), about the good that Andrew Carnegie did for the people of Pittsburgh and the good that he could have done if he'd made different choices, about her father's aborted trip down the Mississippi, and, especially, about Dillard's growing awareness as she grew up that Pittsburgh high society was not the box she wanted to be in -- made me grateful to have read this book.


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Book review: Quirky Kids — Understanding and Helping Your Child Who Doesn’t Fit In …

Sunday, July 30th, 2006

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Author:Perri Klass
Reading Level (Conceptual):For grown-ups
Reading Level (Vocabulary):For grown-ups
Genre:Non-fiction
Year of publication:2003

reviewed by An Asperger's Parent

This is a book for parents of kids who have, or resemble those who have, any of several closely related, and confusingly similar, challenges: Asperger's Syndrome, Pervasive Developmental Disability - Not Otherwise Specified (PDD-NOS), Nonverbal Learning Disorder, Sensory Integration Dysfunction. But it's about the kids, not the disorders.

This is NOT the book to provide an in-depth understanding of any one of these diagnostic categories. For that purpose, a book more focused on whichever condition you're concerned about will probably serve you better. For example, my own favorite scholarly resource on Asperger's Syndrome is Asperger Syndrome (Guilford Press, 2000), a collection of articles edited by Drs. Klin, Volkmar and Sparrow of Yale.

What Quirky Kids does, and from my perspective does better than any other publication I'm seen, is to serve as a wise, perceptive and sympathetic counselor and friend for parents of kids who are in this spectrum. It speaks respectfully and helpfully about the whole range of real-world issues, including schools, helpful and non-so-helpful friends, maintaining your own mental health, balancing the needs of multiple kids when one or more has exceptional needs, genuinely appreciating your kid's strengths and quirks, understanding the aches and long-term worries.


Where so many of the books I've read and helping professionals with whom we've consulted, seem to illustrate the parable of the six blind men describing the elephant, Drs. Klass and Costello, the authors of "Quirky Kids," seem to see, and appreciate, the whole beast. I'm REALLY glad I found this book, and I warmly recommend it to parents for whom these issues are relevant.

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It’s all the mad scientists’ fault: rant comparing The Incredibles, The Bee Season, The Hulk and Pi (the movie)

Friday, July 14th, 2006

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It is particularly frustrating when a book or movie or other work of art or entertainment has clearly been CREATED by a gifted person and yet espouses the view that Giftedness is a Perversion that Must Be Stamped Out. In The Incredibles, a family has to (simultaneously) hide its genetic, extreme physical gifts (which, we are led to understand, is a very bad thing) and fight an evil genius who has designed and built devices of mass destruction. Society, including the Incredible Family, doesn’t recognize that the Evil Genius has any gifts at all. This Evil Genius is also short, the only physical characteristic that politically correct people are still allowed to make fun of these days.

In many gifted circles, the animated movie, The Incredibles is acclaimed as a metaphor for the treatment of gifted. “Just look at the Incredible Girl, Violet! Her invisibility is obviously symbolic. We are all forced to hide our giftedness,” they simper. “Just like the Incredibles.”

Wrong, not like the Incredibles.

The moral of The Incredibles is that athletic giftedness is not to be hidden. Intellectual giftedness, now, that is another story entirely.

In The Incredibles, it’s the “athletic types” who are encouraged to hide their gifts. The gifts that the “bad guy” is supposed to suppress have to do with his mental acumen which he uses to augment his physical characteristics, whereas the gifts that the “good guys” are suppressing are athletic — strength, speed, flexibility.

The Incredibles does not actually champion the gifted. In fact, in The Incredibles, as in most “modern” mad scientist plots, there’s a \”reason\” why the mad scientist got to be the way he is. (Bad mother, etc.) In the Incredibles, it was because the superhero dissed him. (Kind of like at Columbine, huh?)

In this, the message of The Incredibles is consistent with other messages of our society:

  • Bullying by the physically powerful is a-ok.
  • Hiding one’s physical accomplishments is not ok, and therefore encouraging football heroes to be humble is unnecessary.
  • Hiding our mental powers — those with extraordinary ones probably SHOULD do that much, for the comfort of others not comparably endowed.

The moral of this movie, as I saw it, was that athletic talents are unique but smart people are just evil and we need to nurture our physically strong people to keep the smart people in line.Have you heard that Bush’s new budget cuts subsidies for college loans, by the way? And increases the military budget. Hey, makes sense to me!

The Bee Season is another example of a genre of literature and entertainment which I call “Gifted/Unique People Hate Themselves and Others and, Because of Their Giftedness, Are A Danger to Others and Therefore Unfit to Live”. (The movie Pi is the worst of this genre that I’ve encountered, but there are many, many, many works that fit.)

Having foolishly believed the SF Chronicle’s extremely positive review of The Hulk last week, I dragged my 8 year old to see it. She cringed in her seat as the movie unfolded. The “highlight” for me was when the Hulk’s father, a brilliant but crazy scientist (all brilliant scientists are crazy, right???) tells the Hulk’s girlfriend, who is also a brilliant scientist, that his brilliant scientist son is amazing and unique and special and it’s admirable that she’s trying to be supportive of him — and then he tries to eliminate her.

Or, actually, it’s possible that that’s not exactly what happened in the movie, which is such a chaotic mess that I really couldn’t understand anyone’s motivations (and had to sit there for 2.5 hours trying to explain them to my 8 year old who was just devastated that a frog had blown up early in the movie. It’s ok to blow up frogs in a Good Movie, but to show a perfectly beautiful frog dying in a movie this bad is — criminal).

And The Hulk is SO bad that I refuse to ever see it again, so if any of you go to see it and care to explain the plot to me, please feel free.

ANYWAY in The Hulk, a whole SLEW of brilliant people spend approximately 2.5 hours trying to destroy, for no good reason whatsoever, others who they know are brilliant. Even the brilliant people who are related to each other hurt and betray and occasionally try to kill each other. It put the phrase “mindless violence” in an entirely new and unpleasant light for me.

I have recently been reading the book The Selfish Gene. And thinking How Cool It Would Be if gifted people who have attained positions in which they are privileged to create books and movies and other works that might influence up-and-coming generations would nurture the image of gifted people as People Who Love Their Gifted Children as much as other People Who Love Their Children. And who might create scientists and other intelligent people in literature who are NOT crazy-people-Driven-Mad-By-Their-Brilliance.

Aren’t the genes of gifted people Selfish too? Is it just the genes of gifted people in high positions in the Arts that feel the need to express the idea that gifted people are perversions, or is that what most of us feel about ourselves and our children?

Well, guess that’s the end of my rant. I enjoyed reading the Bee Season; finished it in a day and then — and I rarely do this — I destroyed it. It certainly is an intriguing book, but not one I’d encourage my gifted teenager to read.

Book review: The Book of Ruth

Monday, July 10th, 2006

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Author:Jane Hamilton
Reading Level (Conceptual):For grown-ups
Reading Level (Vocabulary):For grown-ups
Genre:fiction
Year of publication:1989

"What did Cinderella's mother die of?," my daughter asked me, when she was 4. I myself had never troubled to think about this. But I came to realize that, in stories for children, from fairy tales to adventures to Walt Disney musicals, the mothers' presence is usually notable for its absence. Their deaths are required so that plots can unfold.

And yet, I have recently come across a few novels that consider thoughtfully the role(s) a mother may play in her daughter's future. In the two grimmest, White Oleander and The Book of Ruth, the power of the mothers to destroy their daughters despite great distance, time, and, in the case of White Oleander, despite tall prison walls, is absolute. The sorrows of mothers, say Janet Fitch and Jane Hamilton, are visited on their daughters.

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Perhaps it is because the mothers in White Oleander and The Book of Ruth are so monstrous that we cannot forgive the mothers for the torment they inflict on their daughters. We hold them responsible for failing to surmount their own troubles in order to better the lives of their children and grandchildren, even when their daughters actively contribute to their own tragedies.

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Book review: White Oleander

Monday, July 10th, 2006

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Author:Janet Fitch
Reading Level (Conceptual):For grown-ups
Reading Level (Vocabulary):For grown-ups
Genre:fiction
Year of publication:1999

"What did Cinderella's mother die of?," my daughter asked me, when she was 4. I myself had never troubled to think about this. But I came to realize that, in stories for children, from fairy tales to adventures to Walt Disney musicals, the mothers' presence is usually notable for its absence. Their deaths are required so that plots can unfold.

And yet, I have recently come across a few novels that consider thoughtfully the role(s) a mother may play in her daughter's future. In the two grimmest, White Oleander and The Book of Ruth, the power of the mothers to destroy their daughters despite great distance, time, and, in the case of White Oleander, despite tall prison walls, is absolute. The sorrows of mothers, say Janet Fitch and Jane Hamilton, are visited on their daughters.

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Book review: What To Keep

Monday, July 10th, 2006

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Author:Rachel Cline
Reading Level (Conceptual):For grown-ups
Reading Level (Vocabulary):For grown-ups
Genre:fiction
Year of publication:2004

The daughter of a brilliant but flawed neurosurgeon learns to appreciate the imperfect life her mother has helped her to lead.

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Book review: The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children

Friday, May 19th, 2006

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Author:Ross W. Greene
Reading Level (Conceptual):For grown-ups
Reading Level (Vocabulary):For grown-ups
Genre:Non-fiction: Child-raising
Year of publication:2001

Dr. Greene describes certain children who, although they are not intentionally rebellious, under certain circumstances become so caught up in their frustration that they lose the ability to reason. He suggests that parents carefully choose which battles to fight (with detailed descriptions about how to make these selections) and provides suggested techniques for helping these children control themselves.

The book includes little dialogues in which the author recounts both successful and unsuccessful attempts to diffuse explosive situations; these dialogues are followed by analyses of what might have been going on in both the parent's and the child's minds.

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